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Standing Up to Cancer - Pass it On

2011-10-16T11:00:00.000-05:00

October 2011

In recognition of National Breast Cancer month in October, I am repeating a blog that I first published in 2008. We are moving closer to a cure. We have so much more work to do. Read on...

Cancer doesn't care if you are a democratic, republican, Presbyterian, Asian, a millionaire, popcorn salesman, or a wire-haired terrier. It sneaks into our lives with devastating results that deplete our physical bodies and fracture families held together by hope.

Celebrity status doesn't make you immune from cancer either. We see this when we look at the lives of Sen. Ted Kennedy, Elizabeth Edwards, Dana Reeves, Christina Applegate, Cheryl Crow, Melissa Ethridge and Gilda Radner. How about the imperfect timing of NFL star Gene Upshaw, who was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer on a Sunday and died the following Wednesday?

What scares me the most is just how readily cancer manifests itself into our lives. We all have cancer cells lying dormant in our bodies. When we let our immune systems get run down, or we get sloppy with our eating and exercise habits, we give cancer cells a clear path to rise to the surface.

Unfortunately, even the healthiest, most diet-conscious, exercise fanatics aren't safe. We all have attended funerals of the physically fit whose lives have been snuffed out by colon, breast, lung or pancreatic cancer.

When I took a personal inventory in my family, I came up with an arresting list of loved ones who either have died from or endured the physical and emotional pain of cancer. Here's a snapshot just from my family alone; three uncles, my mom and dad, brother, brother-in law, grandfather, cousin's wife, and a second cousin.

Pictured at right is Cathy Askin, relay chairman for Relay for Life, Downers Grove, IL.

On to the next circle of people that I love; best friend, more than 12 women from my church who have breast cancer, six dear sailing buddies who have died, dear neighbors, and my academic advisor. Peggy Condon, my professor and thesis advisor (and who wrote the foreword to my book, Navigating the Journey of Aging Parents) endured more than 40 years in a wheel chair after a bad accident, only to die from liver cancer. The list goes on.

My mom used to canvass door-to-door for the American Cancer Society in the 1950s and '60s. Look how far we have come since then...Look how many people we have lost. Little did my mom know at the time she canvassed that she would be a breast cancer survivor 30 years later.

This past summer family and friends touched by cancer all across the country took part in the American Cancer Society's Relay for Life events . I was fortunate enough to be the keynote speaker for the Relay for Life held in Downers Grove, IL. Since this year's theme was "Celebrate, Remember, Fight Back!" it only made sense to deliver the speech in boxing gloves and robe. Special thanks to Cathy Askin, a breast cancer survivor herself, for being the relay chairman.

Here are actions steps you can take right now To Stand Up to Cancer.

Please share this blog's message with at least 25 people. Or, send it to five people who you know will do something about this horrific disease.

We work so hard to get the right people elected for the right jobs. Get them to work for us.

Let our elected representatives know that it is time for our government to renew focus on research and end cancer. Paste this into your browser and you can get your message to congress. There is a sample letter and emails to your representatives. http://su2c.standup2cancer.org/getinvolved/congress.

Donate money to the American Cancer Society,www.cancer.org/helpnow, the Avon Walk for Breast Cancer, walk.avonfoundation.org, or the Susan G. Komen for a Cure, www.Komen.org.

Wouldn't it be wonderful if in the years to come, our grandchildren could ask, "Grandma, what was cancer?" Thanks for reading and helping to Stand Up To Cancer.

Blessings and hope.

Cheryl Kuba

The Front Porch, Lemonade, Conversation

2011-08-22T23:23:00.003-05:00

Did you see it? Was that summer fleeting by? There are still a few weeks left to enjoy some of those lazy, crazy hazy days.
For many of our elders, summertime would signal a time for front porch chats, a sense of community, and a time to reconnect with neighbors while watching the kids play outside until dark.
This time honored tradition has slipped away due to the invention of air conditioning. Cool air - by air conditioner. It drives people inside, shutting out the sounds of crickets and laughter. It even brings a sense of isolation for some.

For family caregivers, taking a 45 minute break on a front porch swing can be better than a bubble bath, and give you just the mental pause that you need.
It isn't too late to resurrect and share this memorable experience. Make a visit to an elderly family member, a church friend or neighbor. Don't go empty handed. Bring a pitcher of lemonade, or ice cream, and find a couple of comfortable chairs. Sit out, listen to the sounds of summer. Enjoy!

In case you were wondering why these blogs haven't been more frequent, I'll bring you up to date on what's been happening in my professional life. As you may know, I had been working in a corporate position with LivHOME as the Manager of Professional Services - traveling all over the east coast to train and hire Care Managers. In early spring I took over the position of Executive Director for LivHOME's Chicagoland operations. It's fast paced, we have a great team, and I work with dedicated professionals who are committed to making the quality of life even better for each client we serve. If you would like to know more about LivHOME, visit www.livhome.com.

Drop me a line, and let me know how the elders in your life have made their summers full of celebration.

All the best,
Cheryl Kuba

A Heart Felt Message to Take Care

2010-02-28T23:45:00.000-06:00

Saturday, February 6, 2010
A Heart Felt Message to Take Care
It's February. The month when we become dizzy with romance and Valentine's Day. At the center of the physical love frenzy is the heart. We can't love fully unless we have a heart as the driving force.

I am repeating a blog that I ran on February 3rd last year, 2009. Love your heart. Each beat is a blessing.

Tuesday, February 3, 2009
The Beat Goes On...Heart Beat, That is....
It's February and that conjures up thoughts of ground hogs and Valentine's Day. What better way to call attention to the love of Valentine's Day than to focus on hearts - our own hearts and heart health.

We have been jolted into submission to pay attention to heart health by the arresting story in the news about the young GI who was was skydiving for the first time in tandem with an instructor tethered to his back.

Unfortunately, the highly experience instructor died of a heart attack while airborne at the beginning of the 45 minute decent to the ground. The GI had the good sense to recall some combat videos he had seen about paratroopers, kept his calm, and safely landed himself and the instructor. The sad ending is that CPR could not bring the instructor back to life.

That same weekend we heard about the death of a man in our church, in his late fifties, who had spent his last eight years in a nursing home because of a debilitating stroke. He has four teenage children. A severe stroke has landed another church friend, Lisa, 48, first into the hospital, and now, thankfully into rehab. Lisa and her husband, Craig have a blended family of nine kids. Prayers are needed for all these wonderful people, and for their families who are having to struggle with grief, recoveries and healing.

With Valentine's Day as the focus with hearts, the stories we've just talked about all have a common thread, heart attacks and stokes brought on by weaknesses in the heart. Heart health is something that few of us focus on until we have a frightening episode.

To shed more light on what needs to happen to maintain a healthy heart, I am going to repeat some information from our blog last February, and remind all women in the Chicago area to try and attend and support the "Go Red for Women" event.

Go Red for Women Luncheon
Chicago Go Red For Women® Luncheon
02/26/2010
8:30am -- 2:00pm
Fee: Please call the American Heart Association for information.
Location:
The Palmer House Hilton
17 East Monroe Street
Chicago, IL 60603

For anyone outside Chicago and to find out more information, go to www.americanheart.org.

Here is what goes on in your heart every day. The average heart beats (expands and contracts) 100,000 times and pumps about 2,000 gallons of blood.

Some arresting facts to motivate us to keep our hearts healthy:

* Coronary heart disease is the No. 1 cause of death in the United States.
* Stroke is the No. 3 cause of death in the United States and a leading cause of serious disability.
* Surviving a stroke can have a devastating impact, not only on the survivor, but on everyone who cares about them.
* Whether you are experiencing any warning signs of a heart attack or stroke,call 9-1-1 immediately! Quick medical attention can reduce the risk of debilitating results, and death.

Know these warning signs of stroke and teach them to others. Every second counts:

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· Sudden numbness or weakness of the face, arm or leg, especially on one side of the body
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· Sudden confusion, trouble speaking or understanding
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· Sudden trouble seeing in one or both eyes
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· Sudden trouble walking, dizziness, loss of balance or coordination
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· Sudden, severe headache with no known cause

For women, look at the following tips to maintain a healthy heart and add years to your life.
Tips for Women at Work:

* Add extra walks to and from the water cooler
* Take ten minute walks between meetings
* Use the stairs instead of the elevator
* Bring healthy snacks
* Take time for lunch and eat at regular intervals versus skipping meals
* Make time for physical activity -- go to the gym and bring your favorite book or office materials to read or workout at home watching your favorite show

Do all you can to be here next year for Valentine’s Day. While we may give our hearts away many times in our lives, we only get one heart to care for. Take heart and take care of yours.
Cheryl Kuba
Aging Parent Solutions, LLC
www.agingparentsolutions.com
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Make Sure Your Parents Thrive - Not Just Survive. FAMILY WEALTH BUILDER E.ZINE

2009-02-15T22:20:00.005-06:00

Feature Article: Make Sure Your Parents Thrive-Not Just Survive

Bill and Kirsten Update: Interview with Cheryl Kuba, MA, Senior Caregiving Expert.

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This month I had the pleasure of interviewing Cheryl Kuba, MA, author, gerontologist, founder of Aging Parent Solutions, and former radio host for CARE radio on News Talk 560 WIND in Chicago.

I work with so many adult children who are struggling with their role as caregiver for their elder parents, and I knew that Cheryl would be able to offer you some tips to lighten the load. Even though Cheryl is an expert in solving senior caregiving challenges, she said that "working in the industry is like climbing an anthill, but working with my own parents was like climbing an iceberg."

Cheryl was responsible for the care management of her own parents during the last 7 years of their lives. Her mother had Alzheimer's disease for 8 years, and her dad was very frail. Her parents transitioned through independent living, retirement living, living with a caregiver, independent apartment with full time caregiver, nursing home, skilled care, and finally hospice!

According to Cheryl, she discovered that nobody had ever gone to the dependent elderly and asked them what they wanted and needed. So, she decided to do it herself. This month's article provides some tips for senior caregiving that she has discovered in her journey along the way.

Each chapter of her book-Navigating the Journey of Aging Parents (Routledge 2006)--has a different topic and includes Giving Up the Keys, Keeping the Keys, and Moving to a Care Facility. You can order it here.

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Make Sure Your Parents Thrive-Not Just Survive
Written by Kirsten Izatt and Cheryl Kuba

Cheryl had lots of specific tips for families who are caring for a senior loved one; here is just a sampling of her wisdom:

1) Give Your Senior a Job . . . Give your senior loved one a job so they feel useful and have a sense of purpose! For example, they can clip coupons and give them to a charity. At some churches, seniors who are shut in fill out birthday cards for parishioners.

2) Use Holidays to Spread Some Love . . . Even though holiday cards have stopped, when another holiday arrives such as Valentine's Day, e-mail everybody you know (and trust!) with your parent's address and telephone number and ask them to give your senior parent a call and provide some good cheer. Ask your elderly dad to tell you the craziest gift or letter he received for the holiday or what was the goofiest thing that would happen. Ask about current events or ask about things that happened in the past that relate to what is happening today-e.g. what was it like when Harry Truman was inaugurated.

3) Start the Conversation . . . The best way is to have a plan and bring the subject matter up before there is a crisis. This advice applies to estate planning, funeral arrangements, where they want to move, and taking away the keys. A good way to do this is ask "How do you feel about" moving in with your daughter, not driving the car, selling your home?

4) Do a Walkabout around the Home . . . Adult children and parents need to walk around the home together and do an assessment. Ask: "What are you going to do if X happens?" Then walk to the other side of the room and ask what is going to happen when you are watering the plant and you slip. Every pilot does a physical walk around the outside of the plane before taking off. Do the same thing around the house. Look for loose carpeting or obstacles that could become hazards. Plus, you've now started another conversation with your aging parent.

5) Enlist the Help of Grandchildren. . . If there isn't much communication to your parent from outside callers, then, make it a project for a grandchild to call the grandparent once a week after school. Ask the grandchild to help put pictures in a photo album or help sort the mail.

6) And Most Importantly . . . involve the elderly in every single decision. Let them have their say. "I may not get my way but at least I get my say." (Michael Popkin, MD). If they have their say, you can meet in the middle!

I hope you have enjoyed Cheryl's tips. If you want to learn more, go to www.agingparentsolutions.com

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The Beat Goes On...Heart Beat, That is....

2009-02-03T21:54:00.007-06:00

It's February and that conjures up thoughts of ground hogs and Valentine's Day. What better way to call attention to the love of Valentine's Day than to focus on hearts - our own hearts and heart health.

We have been jolted into submission to pay attention to heart health by the arresting story in the news about the young GI who was was skydiving for the first time in tandem with an instructor tethered to his back.

Unfortunately, the highly experience instructor died of a heart attack while airborne at the beginning of the 45 minute decent to the ground. The GI had the good sense to recall some combat videos he had seen about paratroopers, kept his calm, and safely landed himself and the instructor. The sad ending is that CPR could not bring the instructor back to life.

That same weekend we heard about the death of a man in our church, in his late fifties, who had spent his last eight years in a nursing home because of a debilitating stroke. He has four teenage children. A severe stroke has landed another church friend, Lisa, 48, first into the hospital, and now, thankfully into rehab. Lisa and her husband, Craig have a blended family of nine kids. Prayers are needed for all these wonderful people, and for their families who are having to struggle with grief, recoveries and healing.

With Valentine's Day as the focus with hearts, the stories we've just talked about all have a common thread, heart attacks and stokes brought on by weaknesses in the heart. Heart health is something that few of us focus on until we have a frightening episode.

To shed more light on what needs to happen to maintain a healthy heart, I am going to repeat some information from our blog last February, and remind all women in the Chicago area to try and attend and support the "Go Red for Women" event.

Go Red for Women Luncheon
02/27/2009
9:00am -- 2:00pm
Fee: Please contact the American Heart Association for more information.
Location:
Macy's
111 N. State Street
Chicago, IL 60602

For anyone outside Chicago and to find out more information, go to www.americanheart.org.

Here is what goes on in your heart every day. The average heart beats (expands and contracts) 100,000 times and pumps about 2,000 gallons of blood.

Some arresting facts to motivate us to keep our hearts healthy:

Coronary heart disease is the No. 1 cause of death in the United States.
Stroke is the No. 3 cause of death in the United States and a leading cause of serious disability.
Surviving a stroke can have a devastating impact, not only on the survivor, but on everyone who cares about them.
Whether you are experiencing any warning signs of a heart attack or stroke,call 9-1-1 immediately! Quick medical attention can reduce the risk of debilitating results, and death.

Know these warning signs of stroke and teach them to others. Every second counts:

· Sudden numbness or weakness of the face, arm or leg, especially on one side of the body
· Sudden confusion, trouble speaking or understanding
· Sudden trouble seeing in one or both eyes
· Sudden trouble walking, dizziness, loss of balance or coordination
· Sudden, severe headache with no known cause

Do all you can to be here next year for Valentine’s Day. While we may give our hearts away many times in our lives, we only get one heart to care for. Take heart and take care of yours.

Cheryl Kuba

Aging Parent Solutions, LLC

www.agingparentsolutions.com

A Paradox about Dignity & Disease:Help or Hinderance

2008-07-23T23:06:00.008-05:00

This blog is being written to generate feedback about a topic that creates a paradox about dignity. Should people be forewarned that our loved ones who suffer from a disease may exhibit inappropriate behavior? I ask you to read the following, and then send me your opinions as to whether these little note cards are helpful, or if you believe they compromise the dignity of a loved one.

Please send me your thoughts. I will post the results.

A caregiver tip for diffusing awkward situations

By Angela Lunde

I thought I'd share a quick tip that has been circulating through our caregiver support groups. I believe the idea originally came from a caregiver and wife, Lela Knox Shanks, in her book "Your Name is Hughes Hannibal Shanks." This is now a strategy brought up routinely in our support groups.

Here is a situation that may arise for caregivers at some point: You want to take your loved one out to a restaurant, grocery store, family reunion, etc., but you are reluctant because you think that your loved one may say something or act in a way that is embarrassing to you, or may put others in an uncomfortable situation.

These are real and valid concerns. Keep in mind, persons with Alzheimer's experience a decline in judgment and language as well as other symptoms that can include dis inhibition, irritability, delusions, compulsive and repetitive behaviors — all of which can be challenging to the caregiver especially when in a public place.

So, the strategy is to carry a supply of business sized cards with a saying similar to the following:

"Please excuse my (husband, wife, father, mother), they have a diagnosis of a memory impairment (or you can say Alzheimer's disease, brain impairment) and may say or do things that are inappropriate. If this is the case, please accept my apology on his/her behalf. Preserving his/her dignity is my overall goal. Thank you for understanding."

These cards can be given out discretely anytime you feel it would be helpful. The caregivers I have spoken with find that once a card is handed to someone, a potentially awkward situation is alleviated. In most cases when people understand the circumstances behind the behavior they are genuinely accepting, and often kind and accommodating. By telling others, you are emphasizing that the behaviors are part of the disease and not who the person is. In my mind, this is a way of offering the person with Alzheimer's the respect and dignity they deserve.

My thoughts:

Several years ago I attended a speaker's conference where one of the attendees suffered from Turrets disease. Before each session during the general announcements (about fire exits, bathrooms, etc.) the attendees were also told that there was an individual with Turrets disease and that we should not be alarmed if we heard outbursts from this individual during our programs. We were told that this was part of the behavior and that (he) wasn't in any danger.

In that situation, I felt that the announcement was appropriate.

While I understand the logic behind handing out a card that says my mom or dad with dementia is exhibiting behavior that isn't normal, it is my belief that by this action I am compromising their dignity. Both mom and dad, now deceased after lives ending in Alzheimer's disease and dementia would have been mortified if any members of their immediate family had handed out cards in social situations letting friends and strangers know that they were impaired.

With my mom and my grandmother both having Alzheimer's disease, we had a couple of surprise, embarrassing social mishaps. We smiled, apologized if it was necessary, and moved on. In several cases the inappropriateness resulted in laughter, with everyone joining in - mom, me and the bystanders. Sometimes you have to laugh...or you'll crack up.

The support groups listed above report that the announcements on the little cards are very helpful. I am very interested in your thoughts. Please email me at cheryl@agingparentsolutions.com.

Blessings on all that you do.

Cheryl Kuba

Aging Parent Solutions, LLC

Fighting for Independence at any Age.

2008-07-03T11:03:00.007-05:00

The 4th of July. Independence Day in the land of the free and the home of the brave. Independence. We sing about it at every major league baseball game and at public events. We march for it. We fight for it.

In my line of work as an elder care consultant and speaker on behalf of the causes of the elderly, I see our aging population fighting for independence every step of the way. They fiercely guard their independence to stay in their homes; to continue to drive the family car; and move about freely even though a frail, uncooperative physical body has other ideas and sets limits.

Just a small suggestion for families with aging parents who are struggling with issues about their elders staying at home and resisting outside help. Discuss the option of bringing in outside home care as a way to gain independence and freedom. It's an option of building in layers so that there is the possibility of staying at home versus having the loss of your familiar surroundings.

People celebrate gaining independence and new found freedoms in a variety of ways. Fellow speaker Amy Segami Basic hosts an annual sunrise celebration on the beach each 4th of July commemorating her joy of becoming a US citizen.

Celebrations for Independence Day come in the form of parades, fireworks, picnics and festivals. And ohhhhh do we love to march! As I returned home from errands today, I passed a group of four and five year old children marching in a parade with little patriotic red/white/blue hats. A great sight!

In the Lakeview neighborhood not too far from our house there is the WOOGMS march on every patriotic holiday. WOOGMS stands for the Wellington Oakdale Old Glory Marching Society. The society started 40 years ago with the theme "Everybody Marches." The participants are ambulatory - or not - on bicycles, tricycles, Radio Flyer Wagons, stilts, wheel chairs, unicycles, barefoot, four paws and strollers. If you can move, you can march! The Jesse White Tumblers usually lead the parade and the WOOGMS are now known nationally.

Guarding the independence of the United States is a generational honor. The greatest generation, as described by NBC news anchor and author Tom Brokow is the World War II generation. These are the octogenarians of today who left home as young men and women to defend our country when Pearl Harbor was bombed. My dad and my uncles all served in various branches of the service for our country during World War II.

When I asked my 89 year old uncle about the differences between the horror of Pearl Harbor and that of 9/11 he talked of several huge differences. He said that on that Sunday, December 7th, 1941, the news from Pearl Harbor came after the fact, delivered over the radio. My uncle told that after the news, his family members went to the book shelf to pull out the World Atlas and locate Hawaii. In 2002 on that fateful September 11th, we watched the horrific events unfold before our eyes through mass media, CNN and Internet.

Our veterans span many generations, but we have to be aware, and grateful for all the very young men and women who are defending our freedom. Prior to 9/11 my husband and I had the opportunity to ride along on a commissioning anniversary aboard the USS Abraham Lincoln (CVN -72), one of our country's nuclear aircraft carriers.

We were in awe of the 5,000 naval personnel on board. Average age 19 years old! In fact, as we departed from San Francisco several of the naval seaman who were returning from leave came aboard with skate boards under their arms after great rides on the streets of San Francisco.

Over this weekend, as you celebrate our country's birthday and independence, and you witness those fabulous fireworks as bombs bursting in air, say a little prayer for our heroes of all ages. Pray for those on the front lines, others working in mundane jobs, young people standing watch on air craft carriers, and veterans who paved the way so many years ago.

There is a certain irony in the weather forecast for this 4th of July. It's supposed to be a balmy 76 degrees. Pray too, for our forefathers who, in 1776, worked so hard to bring us to this celebration today!

Happy 4th of July!

Building Memories and Getting Facts about Alzheimer's

2008-04-24T13:39:00.011-05:00

"The good news is that with age comes happiness,"

-Yang Yang -sociologist
University of Chicago

Belly fat - really?
Not only does that spare tire around our middles cause us angst in clingy dresses and tight pants, but now we can start blaming belly fat for boosting our risk of getting Alzheimer's disease or other dementias decades later. The new research, by study author Rachel Whitmer of the Kaiser Permanente Division of Research in Oakland, Calif., found that participants with normal body weight and high belly measurements were 89 percent more likely to have dementia.

Alzheimer's statistics are pretty arresting all by themselves:

10 Million US Baby Boomers will develop Alzheimer’s disease
Every 7 seconds, someone develops Alzheimer’s disease.
Direct & indirect costs for Alzheimer’s disease and dementias are $148 billion annually.
5 million Americans are living with Alzheimer’s disease.
The disease is the 7th -leading cause of death in the United States.

Here's what we know about the Alzheimer's:

• It is a progressive and fatal brain disease.
• Alzheimer's destroys brain cells, causing problems with memory, thinking and behavior.
• It is severe enough to affect work, lifelong hobbies or social life.
• It gets worse over time.

Although the prognosis for individuals with Alzheimer's is pretty bleak, there are many new drugs and techniques that offer hope and improved quality of life. Several drugs on the market right now such as Exelon, Razadyne, Namenda and Aricept will slow the progress of the disease.

The "magic pill" that continues to lead the pack in fending off Alzheimer's symptoms and keeps our brains in shape is the big "E" - exercise! With this recent belly fat data, it speaks volumes for keeping our physical bodies in shape for the sake of our brains, not to mention the other benefits of physical activity. There is plenty of data that will tell us about exercise reducing the risks of heart disease, diabetes, and lung disease.

As Alzheimer's disease destroys portions of the brain, the brain actually shrinks in size. A study by researchers at the University of Illinois found that physical exercise can actually increase the size of a person's brain. Get out and bike, walk or swim. Exercise today!

Two months ago, I had the opportunity to be the featured guest on InTimeTV's internet program, Journey Through Alzheimer's disease. If you click on this link, or paste it into your browser, you can view the show. mms://68.251.204.5/video/intimetv/jta011.wmv. (The link looks strange, but trust me, it works.) The show is weekly and features experts working in the Alzheimer's arena. The show host is Athena Rabapis. Viewers can either watch the show live, or play it at their convenience by going to InTimeTV's archives.

On the day that I was the guest, we had a bit of a scare in the building downtown where the show is produced. I happened to be in the ladies' room at the same time as the show host, and her mother (who was visiting). All of a sudden, Athena turned to me and said, "Does that look like smoke coming out of the light fixture?" Sure enough, the fixture was smoking, and 911 was called. The events that followed were comical, but thanks to the Chicago Fire Dept., everyone was safe, and the show went on as planned. Here's proof from our fire adventure!

Spreading the news about new research and tips about Alzheimer's disease is a cause close to my heart. Both my mother and my grandmother had the disease for a collective total of 18 years. Our family went through all facets of the Alzheimer's journey. Now when I work with families who are affected by the disease, each incident they tell me about fuels my passion to help disseminate information about Alzheimer's. Although my knowledge base comes from the professional arena, it is difficult not to make it personal. When you have a family member with Alzheimer's disease, everyone in the family lives with the disease.

As you travel down the road with Alzheimer's disease, remember;

No two families are alike. No two symptoms are alike. Professionals working with Alzheimer's patients often say, "When you've met one Alzheimer's family, you've met one Alzheimer's family.
You and your family are doing your best.
Have patience.
Take care of yourself, first.

Finally, memory loss doesn't mean new memories can't be made. Your relative with Alzheimer's disease can try something new today - because they are living in this moment.

Go out and give yourself the gift of building new memories - today!

www.alzheimers-illinois.org

Aging Parent Solutions: New Year's Resolutions for the Long Distance Family Caregiver

2007-12-26T17:23:00.000-06:00

Maybe home is where the heart is, but if you are not home and desperately worried about an ailing loved one who lives 2,000 miles away, your anguish can be a ticking time-bomb for your own health and future happiness.

There are lots of common sense strategies that we as long distance caregivers can put into place to make 2008 stress-free for you and your aging parent. According to a study by Metropolitan Life (2005), more than 7 million adult children are caring for their parents long distance. While the internet and cell phones can put us in immediate contact with our loved ones, there is no substitute for the human touch or being able to see with our own eyes that our parents are safe, and well cared for. Long distance caregivers live an average of 304 miles away from their care receivers, according to statistics from the National Coalition on Aging (NCOA).

In Navigating the Journey of Aging Parents: What Care Receivers Want (Routlege 2006), we've included an entire chapter about what the dependent elderly expect from their children who live far away, as well as the concerns that the adult children have about mom and dad not living just down the block. As we venture into a new year our own new year’s resolutions should include a reasonable, updated game plan for long distance caregiving.

Resolutions to insure the well-being and comfort for a relative who lives miles away:

Advance Directives. It’s a new year. Time to revisit the affairs that are in order, or simply get your parent’s affairs in order. Specifically, make sure that the Living Will, Health Care Power of Attorney, and organ donation card (if this is your loved one’s choice) are up to date. Too many families wind up in court at the same time that their ailing family member is dying in a hospital, because nobody checked the advance directives. In some cases, guardianship needs to be established long before a loved one’s dying days.

MOST IMPORTANTLY: KNOW WHERE THESE DOCUMENTS ARE KEPT! Whether it is a safe deposit box, file cabinet, a lawyer’s office or a shoe box under the bed, you should know and should also alert someone who lives close to your parent how to locate these documents. Some elderly individuals choose to tape an envelope to the refrigerator with the living will and durable power of attorney inside. If paramedics are called, they will have the documents in hand in a matter of minutes.

Consider Care Management. Eldercare managers or case managers can be hired to do all kinds of tasks for your parents including scheduling appointments, doing paperwork, hiring housekeeping and even pet care services. Care managers are often considered as “the other daughter” and can serve as a terrific professional liaison between you and your parent. Contact the National Association of Geriatric Care Managers, www.caremanager.org.

Local contacts as back up. It’s time to update that list of local contacts. One adult daughter that we worked with was frantic because her mother’s health care power of attorney had been given to an elderly woman who was now hospitalized with Alzheimer’s disease. Comb through your parent’s social network of neighbors, church folks, and friends to see if there isn’t someone who can frequently visit and give you an update on how your parent is doing. A good source is the Eldercare Locator, www.eldercare.gov. for help in your parent’s community.

Family members. It’s hard to believe that just as your aging parent grows older, so do the grandchildren and nieces and nephews. Maybe one of you nieces or nephews is old enough now to do ‘grandma check-ins’ as a part time job.

Perhaps the situation for your siblings or Godchildren has changed, and they can help with the tasks of taking your parent to appointments.

In town assessments. During your next visit, do a thorough assessment of your parents’ living situation. Is their environment still safe? Are there spills around the stove that could indicate poor eyesight, or lack of recognition about food spilling over?

Do a physical ‘walk around’ with your parent, in their home. Before every flight, the captain or first officer on each commercial flight does a physical ‘walk around’ to make sure that the plane is in ship shape. Are the lights and vents working, etc? Have the conversation with your parent about falling, as the two of you walk through their living room, and into the bedroom. Phrase the question by saying, “When you fall….” not, “If you fall…” One third of all falls with the elderly occur from hazards in the home. As you pass various locations in each room, the question should be, “When you fall over here by the window, how will you get help?” Whether or not you get the best answer to this question, you have started the conversation, and started your parent thinking about the possibilities of a fall. This is also a great time to talk about emergency alert devices.

Telephones. Cell phones and cordless phones can be both a blessing and a hindrance for your parent. Cell phones need to always be charged; and, with a few exceptions, most buttons and displays on cell phones aren’t user friendly for someone with poor eyesight or arthritic hands. Cordless phones work, but are useless if the power goes off. Always have a phone with a cord in the home.

Time zones. We worked with an adult daughter named Jean, who lived in London, while her 85 year old mother lived in the United States. Even though Jean told her mother to call on her cell phone, the elderly mom rarely called because of the distance, the cost, and the confusion over the time zones. Jean became so anxious about her mother refusing to call, that she moved back to the U.S. Now Jean’s mother uses the same cell phone number and calls her daughter frequently. The hurdle here was the obstacle in her mother’s mind about placing a transatlantic call.

Know that you are doing your best. No two families are alike, and no two situations are alike. What may have been an emergency crisis for your Aunt Mabel in Omaha may be solved by getting your mom in Chicago to take two aspirin.

Take care of yourself, celebrate each moment, and 2008 will be a Happy New Year!

Dad turns 100 today.

2007-07-28T11:48:00.001-05:00

My dad's birthday is today. If my dad had lived past age 92, he would have turned 100 years old today, July 28, 2007. Born in a church manse as the eldest of two boys, - preacher's kids - my dad lived the life, and fought the battles of a PK (preacher's kid).His grammar school didn't have electricity, lighted only by gas lamps. He and his brother, Paul, moved several times with their parents around Chicago and Indiana, establishing Presbyterian Churches along the way.

What dad brought into our lives was free spirited thinking; a strong belief in the Lord Jesus Christ; music; some chaos; a strong sense of community; and a love for my mother, his kids, and our extended family (including our neighbors of 30 years) that was everlasting. He was even athletic in his own way. My dad was a self made individualist who had a unique style of his own. He was anti-establishment with an independent spirit.

Walking was dad's physical sport of choice. Every night after dinner he would grab the dog's leash, and he and (our dog) Mickey would take a walk of about a mile around the neighborhood. Good thing to work off those pounds, because our family liked to eat. Sometimes, he would return from his after-dinner walk with a large pizza - always willing to please! He was also a strong swimmer, and I remember going with him to watch a swim meet sponsored by the local Kiwanis Club, where he was a member. When we arrived he found out that they were one swimmer short for the team, so he sat me down in the stands, put on an extra swim suit someone had in their bag, and joined in.

An entrepreneur at a young age, he and his brother created the Safeway Driving School in the 1940s, a business sponsored by the Chicago Motor Club. One of his great claims to fame was teaching Nancy Reagan how to drive. Many years after the driving school had closed, dad still proudly displayed an autographed picture of Nancy Reagan on his dresser mirror.

Dad had a few other brushes with famous people, too. One day when he was attending naval officer's training school at Harvard during World War II, he and my mother took a walk across campus. They noticed a disheveled old man with long gray hair, walking ahead of them. My dad commented, "That must be one of the town drunks." A man walking just behind my parents heard the comment and replied, "No sir, that disheveled man is Albert Einstein!"

Never one to shy away from an opportunity with celebrity, my dad was the first to go up and greet actor Pat O'Brien when we ran into him one Sunday 40 years ago at Mickelberry's log cabin restaurant on Chicago's south side. My dad quickly ushered my brother, sister, and me up to the actor to be introduced with, "Hello. I'm Stewart McClenahan, and these are my kids." Mr. O'Brien was appearing at Drury Lane Theater just a mile away.

During his Navy days aboard the Westpoint, dad also rubbed shoulders with actor and comedian Red Skelton. When my dad ran the Oxygen Medical Service, one of his clients was Elijah Muhammad, leader of the black separatist religious movement known as the Nation of Islam.

Driving and cars played an integral part in our lives because of my dad. He was proud of his work at the driving school, and taught each of his kids how to drive. Those lessons didn't come without a fair portion of blood, sweat and tears. We had to learn on a three speed, manual transmission car - and take our driver's tests on those cars, too! We didn't pass, or get use of the car unless we could successfully parallel park, facing uphill! I remember my dad telling me during those lessons that by learning the three speed, I would be able to drive any type of vehicle in my life. He was right! He also said that I would be able to learn this with ease, and eventually be 'doing it in my sleep.' Well, maybe not in my sleep, but easily without effort.

Since our family lived on a tight budget, our family cars were always used - never new. In the '70s, my dad was in his glory when his 'new' used car was a Volkswagen Beetle - a far cry from the sedans he had driven all his life. He bought the car from a shirttail relative who only drove it to church on Sundays (or so the story goes), and after he picked the car up, he honked the horn all the way home.

It was my dad's second career move that made a lasting impression with me, and fueled my passion for the eldercare field. After the driving school, dad opened Oxygen Medical Service, a company that delivered medical equipment and supplies to hospitals, nursing homes and private pay clients. I was about six years old and he would take me along on his routes. His clients were happy to see a small child, and the experience gave me an understanding of the lives of the frail elderly. On the way home from his deliveries, we would stop at the A & W Root Beer drive-in and get, what my dad called , "A couple of small RBs." Dad would get a gigantic stein of root beer, and I would have a kid's-size real glass stein.

Dad was a terrific writer and took every opportunity to write to the newspaper editors, the state's attorney, or anybody else he felt needed his opinion. TIME Magazine printed my dad's letter about the atrocities of war when Lord Mountbatten was killed, and a medical publication ran dad's comments about the benefits of brushing your teeth with baking soda. (He used backing soda all his life, and had most of his teeth -gold crowns and all - when he died).

Then there was music. He loved to sing and had the wonderful gift of being able to play the piano by ear. Dad was probably a choir member in every church he attended, and was also a proud member of the Morgan Park Glee Men - a men's chorus on the south side of Chicago. He did his best to keep up with the times, -especially in the musical arena. When Saturday Night Fever and the disco era were in full swing, dad came to me one day and asked if I had heard of The Bee Gees? Of course! He told me he had just heard a song by The Bee Gees on the radio, and immediately sat down at our piano and played, "How Can You Mend a Broken Heart" from memory!

My parents were all about service and giving. When dad taught eighth grade science (his third career) in one of the Chicago suburbs' underprivileged schools, he set up an after-school woodworking program for the kids. Dad would go to a local lumber yard and get the scrap wood donated. In that program the kids -most without dads- built bird houses, wooden boats and kites.

When a family from his school was burned out of their home, dad collected clothing and organized a drive to help the family get back some of what they lost. He was an active member of Kiwanis, volunteered for community programs such as flu shot clinics and election judging. Closer to home, dad helped out some of our neighborhood kids when they had troubles at home. He was also known in our area as Mr. Mack, the "go to guy" if a neighbor needed his car jump- started on a cold winter morning.

Believing in God and living a spiritual life was the foundation for both mom and dad. It was their faith that carried them through the rough hurdles in life. His favorite Bible passage was Romans 8:28 "We know that all good things work together for good for those who love God, who are called according to his purpose."

Dad's love for mom for more than 57 years was never doubted. He died just eight weeks after she did, and we are fairly certain he kept going that last year for her sake. His love of family and for his country were also limitless. One of the hymns that knew by heart was Henry F. Hemi's "Faith of Our Fathers, Living Still." That was my dad -faithful, loving, very much full of life, -and living still our hearts.

Happy 100th birthday, Dad.

Bringing Community into the Long Term Care Picture

2007-04-23T18:48:00.000-05:00

Twenty years ago when my grandmother was in her '80s, during those times when she wasn't getting her way, and wanted us to believe that she was momentarily forlorn, she would affectionately tease us with, "Just drop me off at the Imperial." The Imperial was your average, one story nursing home that didn't look very appealing from the outside. We don't know what it looked like, or lacked on the inside, because we never ventured in. My grandmother never did go there, because she died at home after 10 years of stumbling through the fog of Alzheimer's disease. Long term care facilities weren't foreign to me, however, because when I was four years old I used to accompany my dad on his routes to deliver medical equipment to the nursing homes. Sitting in the lobby of various skilled facilities, I saw it all - people in pain, noisy carts being pushed around, unpleasant smells and elderly people. Somewhere along the way, I chose elder care as my vocation.

Fast forward to today, and take a look around at what the world of long term care has to offer. The world 'facility' has been replaced by 'community', for all the right reasons. Having just returned from a wonderful event in Houston at The Plaza, which is the health care center for The Buckingham, a continuing care community, I'm happy to say that this experience was one more affirmation on how the the long term care arena is anticipating the needs of today's elderly.

The Plaza at The Buckingham, a Greystone community, is a good example of a health care center that stands ready as a resource for the community it serves. There are amenities that used to be unheard of for health care communities; valet service, a nursing staff that will gladly answer your questions when you call, even if your elderly parent isn't a Plaza resident. A swimming pool, beautiful foot paths, fireplaces, and dining rooms that resemble the finest restaurants.

Behind all the niceties is the community connection that is the heart and soul of The Plaza. Its people, both residents and staff, are the true core of the community. Look at some of the success stories. One resident who came to live at The Plaza because of her advanced stages of cancer has regained her hope for a long and healthy life. She has recovered enough to drive her car, and will soon move back home. Dorothy, the director of nursing, is another example of a person who has found her calling at The Plaza. Dorothy was already retired when she heard about The Buckingham opening its doors, and decided that she needed the challenge, and wanted to give back with her time and talents. Several of the team members are also caregivers to their own family members. There is no lack of quality or integrity with this staff.

Since The Buckingham and The Plaza are in the business of making people feel better, they have partnered with several like-minded organizations dedicated to education, research and possible cures for debilitating diseases. Nancy Tucker, the president of CanCare Cancer Support Network, introduced me and gave our audience a wonderful snapshot of statistics and hope regarding cancer survival. Photo at right - Cathy Lightfoot, The Buckingham; Nancy Tucker, CanCare; Cheryl Kuba, Aging Parent Solutions.
She also talked about how health centers can work hand-in-hand with caregivers, and ease the burden for those individuals who are battling cancer.

Health centers aren't for everybody. My octogenarian sailing friend, Reese Paley, talks about long term care communities as, "holding tanks for the truly old and decrepit." If an elderly family member has the physical capabilities and desire to stay in their own home, then that's were they should be. But, if they lack socialization, feel isolated, and need assistance with any segment of their activities of daily living, there are so many desirable care communities that stand ready to help.

Care centers don't have to be the end of the road. Short term stays for rehab, and for recovery are the perfect utilization of care communities. Respite care-short term stays- are one of the greatest gifts around. Use it in three ways;

1. As a trial to see if your elderly parent is comfortable there.
2. For a vacation. Maybe your parent can't ski the Rockies. They can spend a week at a care community. (They won't tell you this- but it's a vacation for them, too!) Or, if you are remodeling your house, use respite care for your relative. Don't subject them to the plaster dust and hammering.
3. As a time-out when you need a break. We could write another article about caregiver stress. Use respite care when you need it, and research it long before you need it.

First and foremost, involve your elderly parent in the decision. Don't encourage them to do anything they don't want to do. Do your homework, and check out the care community with your parent. They already know some of the residents. If possible, have your parent volunteer at the community to become more familiar with their programs. Bring your mom in to the center's spa for an afternoon of mother/daughter manicures and pedicures.

Do your homework. Ask the right questions. In "Navigating the Journey of Aging Parents" I have a full page of questions to ask. Don't be shy. If something is a concern as you tour the community, bring it up. Remember that this community is home to some very precious relatives.

Involve the rest of the family in the new care lifestyle. I've seen kids on their way to the prom, and bridal parties stop at a long term care community to include their grandparents in the special day. Many communities have a program called the Baby Brigade, where young mothers bring their toddlers in for the morning so that the older adults and little ones can bond. A lot of surrogate grandmas are born.

A big part of doing your homework is checking out a care community before you need it. Build the relationship as you go. Just like falling in love, it doesn't happen in one day. You have to educate yourself and the community has to earn your trust.

Be ready. There are some terrific resources out there. Get to know the community in your area. It's a blessing to know that they are there when you need the help.

Take Heart, Dear Friend. My Life Depends on You!

2007-02-14T11:32:00.000-06:00

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Today is Valentine’s Day, and I am dumbfounded at how I have been neglecting the good health of a dear friend – my Heart!

Three statistics about heart disease are so arresting , that I want you to read them, digest them, and then pass these three important facts on to everyone you know - your email lists, joke lists, buddy lists – and especially to the women in your life;

1. Coronary heart disease is the No. 1 single killer of women
over age 25.
2. One in 2.6 women die from heart disease, compared to one in 30 from breast cancer.
3. Sixty-four percent of women who died suddenly of coronary heart disease had no previous symptoms.

WAKE UP! WAKE UP! WAKE UP! Especially those of us who are providing care for an aging loved one, or are professionals managing the health care of one individual or one hundred. Take care of yourself first, -especially your heart.

In "Navigating the Journey of Aging Parents," and in all my presentations to caregivers and children of aging parents, my mantra continues –Take Care of Yourself First. Caregiver stress leads to heart attacks, hypertension and stokes. In an Evercare study about caregivers in decline, the physical forms of stress for caregivers include increased blood pressure, heart attack scares, arthritis flare-ups, acid reflux, and headaches. Every experienced any of these?

Two different events this week have fueled my fire to take immediate action about good heart health. In recognition of February being named Healthy Heart month by the American Heart Association, this past Sunday on Care Radio News Talk 560 WIND we featured heart health. I interviewed Lynne Braun, PhD., Nurse Practitioner, Preventive Cardiology Center and the Heart Center for Women, Rush University Medical Center, and Holy Messick, Senior Gala Director for the American Heart Association. These two experts shared powerful information with us about how we, as women, can prevent heart disease.

The second event that made heart health top of mind for me was yesterday’s Go Red for Women celebration at Navy Pier. Every single minute of this half day event and luncheon was filled with resources about getting your heart health checked out, diabetes information, healthy cooking demonstrations, keynote speeches and workshops to raise awareness, and how to speak to your physician about your concerns.

Here’s another alarming fact we need to tattoo to our brains:
On average, an American dies of Cardiovascular Disease every 35 seconds.

Know your numbers. You should be talking with your doctor about your heart rate, cholesterol levels, blood pressure and weight. You can figure out your numbers on line by going to www.GoRedForWomen.org, and clicking on the Go Red Heart Check Up tab. Get your heart checked out at least as often as you have your mammograms.

There are three things that can keep heart disease at bay: Avoid tobacco, Become more active, Choose good nutrition. The American Heart Association calls these the ABCs of maintaining a healthy heart.

When I took a little personal family inventory –always passively thinking that heart disease in our family was on the back burner – I had a rude awakening. Dad had quadruple bypass; one uncle had two heart attacks, with one resulting in his death; mom and her three brothers all had pacemakers. Mom also admitted that 30 years earlier she had been given a prescription for nitroglycerin by her doctor for heart problems – and didn’t tell anybody about it at the time. Because we would worry! Twice, I have thought I was having heart attack symptoms, and I know that my sister had a similar scare.

On two different occasions, I have called my sister in-law, and she has told me about just coming in from a funeral of a dear friend in his 50s: good health, a runner, good diet, doesn’t smoke. In both cases, the individuals died of heart attacks. One of the speakers at the Go Red For Women event was also a runner, in good health, good diet, etc., when she survived a heart attack – at age 27!

Here’s an embarrassing piece of self disclosure: During the last few years of our dog, Arthur’s life, my husband and I were overtly more concerned and conscious of Arthur’s heart health, diet and exercise routine – than we were of our own!

It is the motor that drives our body’s circuitry and soul. It is the furnace that fuels our emotions, from moving our hand with a gentle touch, to having us shake with riveting fear. Scared to death? That emotional shock starts in the heart!

With the advancement of medical technology, we have the possibility of getting spare parts –body parts – to help us maintain an active lifestyle. Over the course of our lifetime, we may have a hip replacement, dentures, new corneas, - even fake knees and boobs! I could go on and on. Our friend, Bill, was lucky enough to get a new heart valve –from a cow! But, for the majority of us, we will only get one heart!

My heart – my dear friend, has been with me since the day of conception when God set its rhythm to keep pace with my life’s stride. Our hearts are the last organ to die in our bodies. My human heart will be the pulse of my existence, until it stops with my last breath. The rest of my life begins right now. I can’t think of a more important or timely reason to take care of a dear friend.
Happy Valentine’s Day!

Please visit www.GoRedForWomen.org. or call 1-888-MY-HEART (694-3278).

PS. If you are interested in reading about the connection between your heart and your soul, pick up the book Heart and Soul, or, The Spiritual Heart, both by cardiologist, Dr. Bruno Cortis.

12 New Year's Resolutions for Desperate Caregivers

2006-12-25T21:34:00.000-06:00

The presents are unwrapped, Christmas was Merry and Bright, and now we are crafting our resolutions for the new year. But in the last few months, I have heard from far too many caregivers of aging parents who are looking at the new year with dread as they sense much of the same in 2007: stress, lack of sleep, irritability, and a sense of loss as their aging parent declines.

From feedback from many of our clients at Aging Parent Solutions, as well as research to combat caregiver stress, we have come up with a dozen New Year's Resolutions for desperate caregivers. Visit agingparentsolutions.com, to read the full article.

This Sunday, 12/31, New Year's Eve morning, at 7:00am on News Talk560 WIND AM Radio, listen in as I host "Health Care Radio." We will highlight the best strategies for Baby Boomers and caregivers to enter into 2007 with good health. We'll also focus on the Twelve New Year's Resolutions for Desperate Caregivers. I really hope you will tune in. Better yet, call in at 847-956-TALK (8255). It's early, but it's a great way to get a jump on those resolutions!

Merry Christmas

2006-12-21T16:05:00.000-06:00

Less than a week to go before Christmas is here!